A journey from just surviving every day to creating your own beautiful Life from your heart and your dreams, I offer you the pathway to follow ….if you are stuck it is not a LOVE issue it is a TRAUMA issue.
Hi, here’s a few labels I have collected along the way…my name is Jo — I can call myself an author of two books, an artist who loves to paint energy lines, ley lines and places on ley lines! A mentor, and guide for those of you trying to heal after experiencing feeling stuck in your Life or trying to find yourself again after a toxic/controlling romantic relationship or narcissistic abuse from family. I am a Mum to two amazing sons who are twins and I hope they know that once you put your mind to something and feel it to be true then you can achieve anything you want to. my body is now healing from a progressive neurological disease!!!! if this hits you then read on!!!
I must say now that if you are in imminent danger or have medical problems please seek advise from relevant agencies, my work is based on my own lived experience. I am not able to diagnose or prescribe medication for symptoms, however, I am able to support you through probably one of the biggest transitions of your Life and I do that with empathy, compassion and a desire to see you through to the other side where you gain back your identity and vitality for Life.
Having grown up in a fairly dysfunctional family where there were lots of secrets and deception going on, I didn’t really feel like I fitted in and I went through the trauma from having been groomed and sexually abused, it shaped me into becoming a People Pleaser to keep the status quo within the family, my life as an adult has taken me through some pretty dark experiences and it’s also led me into profound transformation, freedom, and self-love. Once I learned how childhood traumas and beliefs we took onboard can shape how we behave as adults, my life began to change and I became more “Free to be Me.” That is now my Motto!!!
For most of my 59 years, I had lost myself in relationships that were not optimal, patterns of survival including being silenced, carrying around other people’s secrets and feeling responsible for their errors in life that were not mine to carry, feeling shame, fear, and the belief that I didn’t have a voice or mattered in any way.
My body had been surviving in Chronic stress and this eventually led me to having an auto-immune condition called Multiple Sclerosis, or MS. From 2006 at the age of 40 my life took a drastic turn downhill health wise and in 2011 I became a full time wheelchair user to get around. I was unable to even sit up by myself as my muscles were so weak. I had slurred speech, and had some fairly hefty cognition issues. my body became dysfunctional and I was slowly disappearing from life. Since 2012 I lived without a partner in life. a simple life based on routine.
In 2023, I began to explore ways of Healing again as I had become almost housebound after 2020. filled with fear and anxiety.
I did a lot of work to improve my situation, hypnotherapy and physical therapy and was making good improvements to my health situation, then I found myself unexpectedly in an online relationship with someone from overseas and I thought at the time was going to be a pen friend after he asked me to paint for him. Unfortunately, I later realised that I had been blindsided and manipulated into a toxic relationship that gave a mix of highs and unbearable lows with this person and yet I was drawn in and felt unable to step back out of it. Even though I saw a few red flags, I still did exactly what he told me to do and when we eventually met over 6000 miles away from my home and family I realised very quickly I had made a grave error in my judgement. That trip turned into an extremely toxic and stressful nightmare which ended in me being brought back home by my family with assistance from the Embassy. you would think it would end there but it did not and for reasons unknown to me back then I just could not detach myself from his controlling influence over me and so I had to learn for my own sanity how to break away from this type of controlling abuse. This led me to all my research on how these narcissistic and abusive patterns in a person make it incredibly difficult to break away from.
Everything shifted for me when I finally recognised these patterns — the trauma bond, the manipulation, the old stories written in childhood that were still running my life. With deep inner healing, nervous system repair, and the courage to face the truth, I reclaimed the one thing I had been separated from my entire life:
MYSELF
I finally found out who I really was, the me, underneath all my conditioning and beliefs I had wrongly accepted about myself. I had to do a lot of inner searching for why I became the way I was, unable to let go, frightened to say goodbye to people even if they hurt me. After studying and exploring a range of approaches to healing, including the work of Peter Crone, alongside deep personal healing I finally began to let go of all my limiting beliefs about myself and through this I found that my mind was in a much stronger position now and my physical body began healing aswell. I am now becoming stronger again.
Today, my soul purpose in life is to support and help others who are struggling with the after effects of an abusive relationship to find their own self worth and freedom to live their life again without fear.
I guide people who feel trapped, confused, unworthy, or afraid — people who know there is more to life than pain — to reconnect with their power, their voice, and their innate ability to create a life they love.
Through nervous-system based healing, emotional clarity, creative practices, inner child work, and empowerment teachings, I support you in remembering who you are beneath the trauma.
My mission is simple:
To help you break free from the patterns that hurt you, reclaim your self-worth, and step into a life of vitality, passion, freedom, and self-love.
Whether through my 1:1 sessions of mentoring, my art classes, my courses, my videos, or my words, everything I share comes from my own lived experience. I’ve been where you are. I know how heavy it feels. I also know the incredible beauty waiting on the other side.
You are not broken.
You are on your path back to reclaiming You.
Welcome to this space.